When filing on unreasonable behaviour, it can be difficult to know what to put when it comes to the examples of behaviour that your spouse displayed throughout the marriage.
It may be that you had a largely hostile relationship towards the end so thinking of grounds for behaviour is not a struggle, or, that you actually split fairly amicably but just drifted apart and simply you don’t want to wait to use two years separation as the grounds for divorce.
In this month’s blog, we hope to help writing examples of unreasonable behaviour just a little bit easier for you.
It is important that you include an example of the behaviour your spouse displayed towards you but also how this made you FEEL. You should provide 3 DIFFERENT examples of the unreasonable behaviour at a minimum.
We had an explosive and hostile ending to our marriage:
If your spouse was volatile and made it unbearable for you to live with them towards the end of the marriage, you may find the below examples helpful.
– ‘My spouse (husband/wife) was verbally abusive towards me on many occasions throughout our marriage. They would constantly put me down about my appearance leading me to feel vulnerable and insecure. They would constantly start arguments with me and bully me. This made me feel like I was treading on eggshells around them.’
– Even if this is not specific to you, this does not mean that what happened to you isn’t valid, it would just need to be worded appropriately for you.
Physical Abuse/Domestic Violence
– ‘My spouse was physically abusive and violent towards me. On one occasion they assaulted me which lead to police involvement. I no longer felt safe in my home and constantly felt as though I was at risk from their behaviour.’
– Even if the police are not involved, you can still use this as an example of unreasonable behaviour, the court will rarely, if ever, ask for evidence of police statements.
Adultery/My spouse cheated on me.
– ‘My spouse has been unfaithful to me during the marriage. On one occasion I found text messages of a sexual nature to a member of the opposite sex, this lead to a major lack of trust as they denied doing anything wrong when I confronted them about it. Following this, I also found out through multiple acquaintances that my spouse had been meeting up with the person in question to have sexual intercourse. This made me feel extremely betrayed and further broke the trust as my spouse also denied this despite my hearing from many different sources’
– Even if your spouse has not actually had sexual intercourse with another person, you can still use any form of sexual or romantic interaction with another person outside of the marriage as an example.
These are factors to the eventual breakdown of our marriage:
When the breakdown of your marriage has not been particularly hostile but just gradual and you have distanced yourself from one another over time, consider using any of the below as examples of unreasonable behaviour.
Lack of emotional support
– ‘My spouse was not supportive emotionally. I felt I could not confide in them with any of my issues as they were very distant with me. They seemed uninterested in anything I had to say, and this made me feel unsupported and isolated.’
Separate social lives
– ‘My spouse did not wish to socialise with me. They would make their own social plans, constantly excluding me. I felt they did not wish to spend any time with me and we eventually lead two completely separate social lives. This further added to my feelings of isolation in the marriage as I barely saw any of them.’
Lack of a physical relationship
– ‘My spouse did not wish to engage in a physical relationship with me leading up to our separation. We slept in different rooms, and they showed no affection towards me. This led me to feel unwanted and even more distant from them. For these reasons combined, I no longer wish to remain married to my spouse.’
Lack of communication
– ‘My spouse distanced themself from me and did not wish to communicate with me in any regard. This led to a large rift in our marriage, and I no longer felt comfortable being around my spouse.’
There are many more reasons as to why unreasonable behaviour is applicable to you that are maybe more personal to your situation. As long as you include the action and how this made you feel the court should accept what you have put.
TOP TIP: It is also really important to try and include dates in the examples if you can, this helps to nail down the examples to the judge.
If you do not include enough detail, the courts may reject your petition so it is vital that you do as this can cause a delay in your divorce.
Or they may accept the examples at first but upon review, further down the line, a legal advisor may decide that you have not given enough detail and you could be asked to pay a £95.00 amendment fee to change the petition and it will have to be re-issued to your spouse to sign.
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